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It’s What She Doesn’t Do

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My boy, Billy, seventeen and barely on the brink of manhood, is deeply immersed in his first bout of young love. If you’ve seen Billy’s eyes, you correctly guessed he has no trouble enticing the young ladies…but this one, well, I’ve never seen him nearly so smitten.  It’s rather sweet, really, to see the two of them together.  She’s the daughter of my best friend…the girl he’s known since fourth grade…the girl he barely noticed as anything more than my best friend’s daughter. Until one day…in a different light, a different angle, a different teen-hormone-induced glance and suddenly the two of them are head-over-heels in the land of googly-giggly.

As any young couple learning what it means to think of someone else’s needs and feelings before their own, they’ve had some troubles already.  Yes, he’s messed up quite a bit. (I said he was cute, I didn’t say he was bright.)  But she cares enough to help him overcome his idiocy and he cares enough to try. They’ve actually begun something rather special.

But I had to wonder, as I watch my boy who has no shortage of girls falling at his feet, what made him pick this one.  Why is this girls worth fighting for.

“What do you like so much about her,” I asked.  “What makes her special?”

He shrugged his shoulders, looked me dead in the eye and without hesitation said:

She doesn’t lay down naked in front of me.

“But I thought that’s what seventeen year old boys were looking for,” I said.  “…girls who will lay down naked in front of them,”

“Mom,” he smiled and shook his head as if I was ignorant. “But we don’t want to BE with those girls.”

And maybe it’s odd, but never in the eight years this boy has been my son, have I been more proud than I was at that moment.

Now, if all those girls, who are laying down naked in front of the boys, would realize that all they really had to do to be special…was to do nothing at all.

33 Responses to "It’s What She Doesn’t Do"
  1. Iiicrazycats says:

    Love this. My hubby and I are HS sweethearts, just celebrated 21yrs together in May and about to celebrate 14yrs married in August. We started out like Billy and his girl (albeit a bit earlier). I love that Billy knows what he wants already. He is far ahead of the pack in so many ways. You have every reason to be proud of your young man.

  2. Teressa says:

    You’ve written some spectacular entries over the years but this is, hands down, the BEST!

  3. Laurel :o) says:

    Sigh! Good one!

  4.  You’ve raised a good son.  It’s too bad that there ARE men…young and old…who do want the other kind of girls.  Those are the ones who have no respect for anyone-including themselves.  So kudos to you for instilling values and honor in your children.  🙂

  5. Tdmackey426 says:

    Aww, I love Billy! I want my daughter to marry him. 😉

  6. Rmbmeb110202 says:

    Awesome job, Mom!! Is is weird having him date your friend’s daughter….as you guys are probably so much like family already as it is.

  7. Karen says:

    What an awesome Son you have raised 🙂 And I love that you can talk to him about this 🙂 Be Proud Mom you are doing great!

  8. Jameshaeberle says:

    She’s a doll.  I hope they’ll both be happy together.

  9. Trebecca says:

    Could you raise up a few more boys like Billy please? And repost this in about 10 years… my daughter is 5.  <3

  10. What it boils down to, (and I wish every girl knew this, and every guy knew how to encourage it) is that self-confidence and self-respect are far more attractive than any body part. I am incredibly impressed when two people who see that in each other get together, and at such a young age. 

  11. Prmchern says:

    Probably why her Mom is your best friend. Teaches her kids right too.

  12. Beadmama says:

    Yay Billy!  She is so adorable, and to know she is strong in this regard is wonderful.  And yay Mom for guiding him to a wise conclusion like this.  I want to say, though, that I feel so sorry for the “other” girls and the reasons that they will bare their bodies for any guy.  Guys, when you encounter a girl like that, it’s within your power to cover her back up and tell her she is more than just a body to you.  Lift her up to see the beauty within, and you may just find there are more girls like Billy’s gal than anyone realizes.  Please don’t think I’m blaming the boys for the problem, I’m just saying they often have that power to do something about it.

  13. wadida says:

    Well said! your son is a smart boy. Smart boys are hard to come these days. I have 2 beautiful girls are waiting, but haven’t met the smart one yet!! May God bless you and your family!!

  14. Rivers3lady says:

    My heart swelled with pride for you!!!!  AWESOME JOB YOU ARE DOING WITH THAT YOUNG MAN!!!

  15. Carolyn C says:

    Well said Billy!!!!   What a smart kid you’ve got!

  16. Nancy says:

    That’s awesome!  And so very true.

  17. Stew1113 says:

    So profound for 17- I love it!

  18. Michelle says:

    well, I don’t know ya, mom.  But Kudos to you!  You’re doing something right!

  19. Sheri Rice says:

    they are absolutely adorable, and sound like good kids. Well done, Mom!

  20. Juliaburns2007 says:

    Nice work, Mom!

  21. Michelle Huelle says:

    Ahh!! 🙂 I saw the picture first and thought out loud, “Wow, he’s dreamy!”. And then read the paragraph. Ha! I guess you’ve heard that before. :))

  22. carolinachrissy in Germany says:

    Yay to waiting!  She is special!  I know several young folks who are waiting, too!

  23. Rmbmeb110202 says:

    You should be a very proud mamma bird right now! 

  24. That is just awesome!! your are teaching your son to appreciate woman your doing a great job!! 

  25. Diane says:

    Two smart young people! I have a daughter his age, and one two years younger. They have plans and goals for their lives already. They are the minority these days. Keep up the good work Mom! 🙂

  26. Jillahodge says:

    Yep – He definitely looks like a heart breaker!  LOL Neither one look like they don’t lack for attention – so glad they have found each other and all the happiness to them.  🙂

    Smart kids are hard to come by – hang onto that one!

  27. Barbara says:

    It is true.  I was probably the only girl in highschool that was a virgin and did not lay down naked in front of guys and had so much attention from boys it was overwhelming. I ended up marrying the one boy all the girls wanted and when he was asked why he loves me he responded it was my attitude and that I was the only girl in town that did not lay down for everybody. 

  28. Sandyt says:

    Another one I’m saving especially for my granddaughter to read. Thank you. 

  29. Katyjibson says:

    Proud of both of them!

  30. LSF says:


  31. Jessica Corcoran says:

    Absolutely love it – you have every right to be so so proud 🙂

  32. Excellent message, and even I am proud of your son! 🙂

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